What is anxiety?

Anxiety is a feeling of unease such as fear or worry. It’s one of the body’s natural responses to stress, and affects our thoughts, feelings, body and behaviour.

Anxiety activates the body’s fight-flight-freeze response. This means that the body prepares to either confront, escape or freeze in the face of a perceived threat.

Anxiety is not necessarily a mental health condition. Most of the time, anxious feelings are normal responses to stressful situations in everyday life.

Anxiety in children and young people

For children and young people in particular, some level of anxiety is normal as they grow up and learn to navigate the world.

It helps them to cope with potential threats, and understand how they feel about different situations they encounter.

Difficulties can arise when normal levels of anxiety become more severe and start impacting a child's everyday life. Anxiety can become a problem when:

it is constant, intense, and overwhelming
it occurs in response to no real threat, or the threat is exaggerated
it interferes with someone’s daily life and stops them doing things they want to.

Anxiety at school

School can be an anxiety-provoking environment for some children and young people.

They might be worried about friendships and fitting in, pressure to do well, or taking part in certain lessons or activities.

Experiences outside school or college, such as caring responsibilities, health issues, bereavement or other life changes can also cause children and young people to feel anxious.

Common signs and behaviours

Anxiety can present in different forms in children and young people. It generally manifests in the form of avoidant behaviours. They may seem distracted or absent-minded, agitated, hyperactive or withdrawn.

Pupils displaying challenging behaviour may also be doing so as a response to anxious feelings.

You might look out for some of the following signs and behaviours:

avoidance of people and places in school
difficulty concentrating
withdrawal from social activities
seeming tired, fidgety or absent-minded
not completing tasks or homework
constantly seeking reassurance
worrying a lot about minor issues, such as having the correct equipment
having frequent headaches, stomach aches, etc.
avoiding difficult situations, such as tests or assessments
frequent unexplained absences.

These behaviours aren’t always indicative of anxiety or an anxiety disorder. It’s important to raise any concerns that you might have with the student and their parents or carers, and to work with relevant staff to provide support.

How can I support my child?

Most children and young people who experience anxiety do not require specialist intervention. Schools can be sites of both prevention and support.

The most important thing you can do is to normalise anxiety. Explain to your child that it is a normal response to everyday difficulties, and that support is available to them.

It’s also important to take your child's concerns seriously, particularly when they are having further difficulties with anxiety and need additional support.

You should:

Make yourself available: make your child aware that you are available to talk, and share information with the school.
Listen to understand: when discussing anxious feelings with your child, listen to them with curiosity and openness. Try to avoid making assumptions, minimising their feelings, rushing to reassure them, or telling them to ‘calm down’ or ‘relax’.
Teach your child about anxiety and wellbeing: this could include improving children's knowledge and understanding of what anxiety is, healthy coping strategies for dealing with it and when to seek help. You could use the Let’s talk about anxiety and We all have mental health toolkits to discuss anxiety in a lesson, assembly or coming to school.
Provide structure and clear expectations: establish a consistent daily routine that your child can rely on. Use visual aids such as schedules or calendars to help your child anticipate any changes.
Reach out to school for support and signposting. Mrs Withers is the Senior Mental Health Lead.

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